Demetrius Lovato

"Everybody wants to be black Until they bring out the dogs, And hoses."

Wed, 22 May 2013 19:05:51 -0400

“Everybody wants to be black
Until they bring out the dogs,
And hoses.”

- Elizabeth Antoinette (via elizabeth-antoinette)

Damn.

(via thinkspeakstress)

Conditions Necessary for 'Trauma-Bonding'/Things You Should Know

Tue, 21 May 2013 16:58:24 -0400

Conditions Necessary for 'Trauma-Bonding'/Things You Should Know:

gynocraticgrrl:

(Dutton & Painter, 1981). Several conditions have been identified that must be present for a traumatic bond to occur.

There must be an imbalance of power, with one person more in control of key aspects of the relationship, such as setting themselves up as the “authority” through such things as controlling the finances, or making most of the relationship decisions, or using threats and intimidations, so the relationship has become lopsided.

The abusive behavior is sporadic in nature. It is characterized by intermittent reinforcement, which means there is the alternating of highly intense positives (such as intense kindness or affection) and the negatives of the abusive behavior.

The victim engages in denial of the abuse for emotional self- protection. In severe abuse (this can be psychological or physical), one form of psychological protection strategy is dissociation, where the victim experiences the abuse as if it is not happening to them, but as if they are outside their body watching the scene unfold (like watching a movie). Dissociative states allow the victim to compartmentalize the abusive aspects of the relationship in order to focus on the positive aspects.The use of denial and distancing oneself from the abuse are forms of what is called cognitive dissonance. In abusive relationships this means that what is happening to the victim is so horrible, so far removed from their thoughts and expectations of the world, that it is “dissonant” or “out of tune” or “at odds” with their pre-existing expectations and reality. Since the victim feels powerless to change the situation, they rely on emotional strategies to try to make it less dissonant, to try to somehow make it fit. To cope with the contradicting behaviors of the abuser, and to survive the abuse, the person literally has to change how they perceive reality. Studies also show a person is more loyal and committed to a person or situation that is difficult, uncomfortable, or even humiliating, and the more the victim has invested in the relationship, the more they need to justify their position. Cognitive dissonance is a powerful “self-preservation” mechanism which can completely distort and override the truth, with the victim developing a tolerance for the abuse and “normalizing” the abusers behavior, despite evidence to the contrary.

The victim masks that the abuse is happening, may not have admitted it to anyone, not even themselves.

hamburgerjack: kairisk: So I pokemon-fusioned and … the...

Tue, 21 May 2013 16:52:34 -0400

hamburgerjack:

kairisk:

So I pokemon-fusioned and

…

the MAJESTY

I fucking CAN’T

marxistemalheureux: pro-porn and “sexual liberation” leftism wants women to be communal property of...

Tue, 21 May 2013 14:22:57 -0400

marxistemalheureux:

pro-porn and “sexual liberation” leftism wants women to be communal property of men instead of the property of one man

lord-kitschener: “Father, forgive me, for I have been problematic.”

Tue, 21 May 2013 14:19:36 -0400

lord-kitschener:

“Father, forgive me, for I have been problematic.”

dream-tater: Porn sets and strip clubs are totally safe normal work environments for all and that’s...

Tue, 21 May 2013 14:17:26 -0400

dream-tater:

Porn sets and strip clubs are totally safe normal work environments for all and that’s why so many women who work in them turn to drugs and alcohol abuse to feel at ease or numb to what they’re doing because they don’t want to give up the good money. Yes, makes total sense.

dream-tater: Any other kind workplace environment that instigated and encouraged that sort of shit...

Tue, 21 May 2013 14:16:42 -0400

dream-tater:

Any other kind workplace environment that instigated and encouraged that sort of shit would be getting chewed the fuck out probably you’d think but nope anything that makes of millions of dicks happy and empowers women to be objects is untouchable :) :) :) :) :) :) :)

I GET TO HANG OUT WITH INTERNETGANGSTAR IRL TODAY I CANNOT CONTAIN MYSELF

Tue, 21 May 2013 11:50:28 -0400

I GET TO HANG OUT WITH INTERNETGANGSTAR IRL TODAY I CANNOT CONTAIN MYSELF

Today is going to be a 12+ hour day and I’m guaranteed no more than 5 hours of sleep tonight...

Mon, 20 May 2013 08:32:27 -0400

Today is going to be a 12+ hour day and I’m guaranteed no more than 5 hours of sleep tonight slay me now

tkr: 76pbyoN.jpg oh my god jim this is going to be me and you...

Mon, 20 May 2013 00:42:13 -0400

tkr:

76pbyoN.jpg

oh my god jim this is going to be me and you when i move in

bestiesnotestes: offbranddrugs: electronicanonsensica: Everyone is missing the biggest problem...

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:54:35 -0400

bestiesnotestes:

offbranddrugs:

electronicanonsensica:

Everyone is missing the biggest problem here.

Fuck the ads. Fuck the links. Fuck the email stuff.

Yahoo explicitly forbids pornography and sexually suggestive material on their websites and all affiliates.

That means no more porn on Tumblr.

So I could potentially go into any tag and not see porn?

I willfully accept my new yahoo overlords.

This

this could be the start of something beautiful

morrisseysbackdimples: Pixies :: Hey I LOVE THE PIXIES AND I...

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:44:57 -0400

morrisseysbackdimples:

Pixies :: Hey

I LOVE THE PIXIES AND I LOVE THIS SONG AND I SAW THEM IN CONCERT AND IT WAS THE BEST

"Yes, false rape accusations happen. Run the protocol anyway. I’ve heard that perhaps the military..."

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:43:57 -0400

“Yes, false rape accusations happen. Run the protocol anyway. I’ve heard that perhaps the military has the highest number of ‘em. True or not, RUN THE PROTOCOL ANYWAY. Because in 15 years of investigating rape accusations, I can count those that panned out as false on one hand. Meanwhile, the one time I almost skipped the protocol, the one time I almost didn’t believe a petty officer, because I was naive as an investigator and a young woman, because her commanding officer described her as “a party girl, always late, always out drinking, don’t bother with this one”, she turned out to be the victim of one of the most brutal assaults I’ve ever investigated. She shouldn’t have still been -alive-, let alone up and making the accusation. So let me repeat: five false accounts in fifteen years. And one time I almost failed a woman ‘cause of the bullshit way it’s normal to talk about us. Take your shipmates’ word, and then run the protocol. Every. Single. Time.”

- - JAG lawyer, speaking to my husband’s plant during Sexual Assault Prevention Month. (via circusbones)

yellowcrayonwillow: me on a daily basis my entire blog

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:38:17 -0400

yellowcrayonwillow:

me on a daily basis

my entire blog

interweber: basketball game i fucking love the olsen twins

Sun, 19 May 2013 23:35:48 -0400

interweber:

basketball game

i fucking love the olsen twins

Tickle Me Pink: 12 Fun Facts About Tickling

Sun, 19 May 2013 22:55:24 -0400

Tickle Me Pink: 12 Fun Facts About Tickling:

marjchaos:

http://www.everydayhealth.com/healthy-living-pictures/tickle-me-pink-12-fun-facts-about-tickling.aspx#/slide-1

Reading a completely innocent article on health and tickling that someone sent me. I was thinking, my kids love being tickled, this should be mildly interesting.

One of the Fun Facts about tickling was this.

Men Like Being Tickled More

In one of Provine’s surveys, tickling was slightly less pleasant to women than it was to men, and almost twice as many women as men ranked tickling as “very unpleasant.” This may be due to bad experiences related to non-consensual or non-reciprocal sexual touching, Provine says.

Yeah it makes me mad uncomfortable because growing up boys would use it as an excuse to touch me without my permission.

Florida Teen Expelled, Charged With Felony For Lesbian Relationship

Sun, 19 May 2013 22:53:22 -0400

Florida Teen Expelled, Charged With Felony For Lesbian Relationship:

fuckyeahmarxismleninism:

A Florida family says their 18-year-old daughter was charged with a felony and expelled from high school as a result of a consensual, same-sex relationship with another student.

Kaitlyn Hunt started dating a female classmate at the beginning of the school year when she was 17 and the girl she was dating was 15. According to an account posted to Facebook by Kaitlyn’s mother, in February, just after Kaitlyn turned 18, she was arrested on felony charges at the behest of her girlfriend’s parents. The specific crime was “sexual battery on a person 12-16 years old.”

Kaitlyn’s mother believes the charges were motivated by anti-gay animus:

They were out to destroy my daughter, they feel like my daughter “made” their daughter gay. They are bigoted, religious zeolites [sic] that see being gay as a sin and wrong, and they blame my daughter.

But Kaitlyn’s problems did not end there. Her girlfriends’s parents appealed to the school board and had her expelled from Sebastian River High School. Kaitlyn’s mom reports that the State Attorney, Brian Workman, has offered Kaitlyn a plea deal of “of two years house arrest and one year probation.” Kaitlyn has until next Friday to accept the plea deal or face a trial.

The family has started a petition calling on the state attorney to drop the charges against Kaitlyn.

mistersnurb: oh no! did anyone else just get this?

Sun, 19 May 2013 22:19:11 -0400

mistersnurb:

oh no! did anyone else just get this?

petitesurrealiste: appropriately-inappropriate: I encourage...

Sun, 19 May 2013 21:37:12 -0400

petitesurrealiste:

appropriately-inappropriate:

I encourage my followers and anyone interested to visit this blog [“The Invisible Men”]. As is already indicated in the above screenshot, it offers the perspective of the Johns/”punters” who purchase the services of women to sexually perform for them. Usually the perspective that is brought to the forefront of discussions and viewpoints on sex work and the sex industry is that of the workers with typically positive experiences. The choice of women who are privileged enough to willingly, enthusiastically and consensually engage in the industry is paraded yet rarely, it seems, do people inquire about the mindset and motivations of the men who are active with these women. What is going on in HIS HEAD, what about HIS CHOICE?

I warn you in advance, this blog contains first person accounts of rapists and (IMO, unsurprisingly) raging, remorseless misogynists. Visit if you want to broaden you understanding of the dynamics in this industry in regards to the experiencing of male Johns and female workers. Visit if you want to broaden your understanding beyond just being exposed to a veil of glamor or positivity that keeps many people ignorant to how violent/abusive and yes, degrading it can be. - G.G

Take those warnings seriously, guys.

read this blog if you need to throw up.

nametheproblem: Roxie Turner, Jonathan Nadler, George Thomas...

Sun, 19 May 2013 21:19:58 -0400

nametheproblem:

Roxie Turner, Jonathan Nadler, George Thomas and Bruce Hertzfeld

Roxie Turner, Jonathan Nadler, George Thomas and Bruce Hertzfeld rape Women for pay.

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(: fuq johns